What do Women want in a male?

What do Women want in a male?

Arguably like all organisms the human species primary aim is to reproduce, we are survival machines basically designed to make sure our genes are passed onto succeeding generations.

Women are endowed with the means to conceive, carry and nurture children, menstruation, lactation, and the associated bodily functions and attributes that these imply mean that women are constantly reminded of their primary role in life. Put crudely our “other half” is a machine designed to attract a mate, copulate, conceive, construct, deliver, nurture, succour and then support a tiny human being into a fully grown one. Amazing really! 

Meanwhile our major contribution to reproduction is sex! Well we do have some other roles but basically men seek out and copulate with woman, that is their primary aim in life! We are a machine designed to fight for, impress, and then impregnate a woman.  It goes without saying that sex is very enjoyable for us even though it may take very little actual time it occupies a lot of time in a males head. 

Because of their long-term commitment to conception, nurturing and raising of progeny women have a much greater stake in the securing of a suitable mate to provide for her and her offspring than males.  Also women are born with a limited number of eggs released at the inordinately slow rate of one per month.

In evolutionary terms they have to make the most of their opportunities! Their eggs are precious and expensive. Men on the other hand have millions on millions of sperm and are making more all the time. In evolutionary terms men have to seek out as many opportunities as they can! (You do not need to take that literally, although some do) Our sperm are cheap and as they say there are more where they came from.

So what do women prefer in males: Let us be brutal here, brutally honest –What does a women want in a man? Women are attracted to status this is what it is all about even though they may not know or acknowledge this.  We deceive ourselves (both sexes) in to thinking it is all about falling in love or it is romantic love.  In reality women are looking for high status men who can provide them with high quality offspring and the means to support them and her. I know this may be a shock to you but in biological terms this is the truth.

I repeat a woman wants:

     A provider partner who will invests food, shelter, protection and care in her and her children.

     A high status lover who can give those children first-class genes.

The cost of raising children in Australia now is over AUD $1,000,000 for each child.   For that sort of money, women need to be on the lookout for a great partner who can help provide for their offspring. The care and nurture scenario in evolutionary terms is in overdrive. In scientific terms, this is called ‘partnership investment theory’. Women are on the lookout for a male who can provide them with security, cover and protection. Human females are not alone; females in the animal kingdom do this as a matter of routine and survival. Thus female lions are normally impregnated by the dominant male who protects them and provides a large territory for them to hunt and nurture their young. He may not look the best, but if he holds the territory, he wins—and this is a powerful attraction. Human females likewise are attracted to dominant males.

Joke:

Boy (to Girl): I'm not rich like Jack, and I don't have a mansion like Russell or a Porsche like Martin, but I do love you and want to marry you.

Girl: I love you too, but what was that you said about Martin?

John Condliffe's new Book A letter for My Daughters will be published soon. He is currently researching for another title-Sons.
 

For more info on this read the following:

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Ridley, M, 1994. The Red Queen: Sex and the Evolution of Human Nature. 1st ed. London: Penguin Press.

 

Martin Sewell. 2010. Men and Women FAQ. [ONLINE] Available at: http://sexes.martinsewell.com/. [Accessed 08 January 14].
 

NAB Help and Guidance. 2010. NAB Help and Guidance. [ONLINE] Available at: http://learn.nab.com.au/the-cost-of-having-kids/. [Accessed 22 December 13].