Kissing

Kissing

A few weeks ago I was intrigued to learn that it was world kissing day. There was even an article on it in the major paper in town (The Age-Melbourne) it got me thinking on this behaviour and why we do it. Sure I love to kiss my immediate family share face kisses on seeing each other. It is a near universal sign of affection and care. Between partners and lovers it is the sharing of a deep affection and love and of course often the start of foreplay and sexual activity.

It is an arousal mechanism of some magnitude which was amplified in the film Pretty Woman where the prostitute initial service does not include kissing but in the end as she falls in love with the rich fella she does kiss in that rather torrid love scene. Kissing is such a tender and personal act it has the effect of rousing in us deep feelings and emotions that can almost overwhelm us.

Cascades of endorphins and hormones crash through our bodies as we kiss, they are almost as strong as the sex act itself. Our lips are hardwired to a remarkably large area into our brains. The lips are full of nerve endings and blood supply; they are tender and very sensitive. Cut your lips and you find out how tender. There has to be a natural selection fit that makes us want to and enjoy kissing so much it is almost universal across the human species. Theories from females attracted to men whose genes are and immune system is different, to bonding, to a descendant of the passing of regurgitated food between parent and offspring, attachment, and mate sharing.

Anyway forget about the evolution of it all and enjoy it if you want a fantastic relationship you have to know how to kiss and kiss well. Most people remember the first kiss in a relationship rarely the first sex act! Here are some hints:

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Build up to it just do not rush. Hasten slowly is the rule with kissing. Remember this you blokes out there especially.

Relax and enjoy the experience.

Build up slowly with the pressure not just straight in.

Kissing other parts of the body in between lip kissing is a must.

Talk about and communicate your desires and what brings you pleasure with your partner.

Remember it is not "rocket science" let it flow.

There are lots of tips but remember it is natural "the more you do it the more you do it." If you want a great sex life get good at kissing and that will take practise- go for it. Kiss your partner all the time not just when you want sex (Fellas remember that) A small peck and embrace -encounter at the appropriate times will make your relationship healthier and you healthier as well it is a win win situation. Plus when the time comes for sex it will be fantastic!

John Condliffe

17.7.14